The Magic of Calm

 “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” 

~ W.B Yeats

Over the past ten years, I have been deeply dedicated to retraining my nervous system to feel safe. When I feel calm and regulated, my world feels magical. I appreciate tiny, joyous details, and all feels right and good.

Tuning into my truth through meditation and co-regulating with safe and supportive beloveds transforms my fears into the magical safety of regulation.

Neuroscientist Stephen Porges elucidates a hierarchy of responses in the nervous system. You might find it helpful to consider how the story that follows the state of your nervous system influences the degree of magic you can experience.

Freeze - Immobilization. The oldest nervous system pathway involves an immobilization response. In this response, you will become frozen, numb, and shut down. In this state, you might feel apathy, numbness, and depression. The story your nervous system tells you in this state is: "I am alone and hopeless. I can't cope. I am collapsed and shut down."

Fight/Flight - Mobilization. This nervous system response helps you to mobilize in the face of a danger cue or an emotional trigger. In this response you will spring into action with an adrenaline rush to get away from danger or to fight off a perceived threat. In this state, you might over-work, over-exercise or be on such a high alert you cannot sleep. The story your nervous system tells you in this state is: "The world is dangerous. I need to run or fight back."

Calm Regulation - Social Engagement. This nervous system response helps you to feel safe and connected to others. In this state, you will feel safe, calm and engaged with life. The story your nervous system tells you in this state is: "The world is a safe place, and I am engaged with the magic all around me!"